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5 Strategies to Get Anything You Want From Life

Strategies to Get Anything You Want From Life

The existence of truly unfettered and unwavering belief that we can achieve anything we want in life is a fundamental tenet to fulfilling our deepest desires and dreams. Belief, faith, or the unconscionable knowledge that we’re destined to attain or achieve something, is one of the most crucial determining factors in our ability to do so.

But how often do we have sheer and utter belief and faith in our abilities? How often do we say, “I know I can. And I will,” as opposed to, “I hope I can. And I might.”

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More times than not, we simply doubt ourselves. We live in a state of constant fear, anxiety, stress, and worry, fretting and overthinking every little thing that we do, wondering if it will ever be good enough to fulfill our goals and live the life that we deserve. Needless to say, this is a far more common occurrence in our lives than harboring sheer and utter belief in ourselves.

But then again, we’ve got our reasons for overthinking things and constantly worrying and living in a state of fear, don’t we? How are we supposed to take the big risks associated with reaping big rewards, when there’s so much riding on the line? What happens if we fail? What happens if we can’t support our families, keep a roof over our heads, or put food on our plates?

Yet, that’s just it. Fears can easily manifest themselves. Once the mind gets going, it can head into a tailspin. Many of us know this all too well. The mind is a powerful tool, one that can be used for good, and certainly one that can foster bad. Like attracts like, as the saying goes.

So, if you want to achieve anything you want in your life, you need to hold powerful sway over that extremely complex bundle of tissue and matter in your head — your brain, and that construct that resides within it — your mind.

“A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind.”

James Allen

How to Achieve Anything You Want?

1. Be aware of your biases

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Your brain uses mental shortcuts to evaluate new information out of necessity. Those shortcuts, however, influence how you perceive the world. Though there are hundreds of proven biases, here are a few more commonly known ones that impact what you believe.

Confirmation bias makes you more likely to accept new information that supports beliefs you currently hold about the world. This one makes you unlikely to change your mind once it’s made up.

Availability heuristic makes you more likely to overestimate the importance of information that is easy to remember. Lastly, there’s conformity bias which makes you want to conform with other people.

A 2015 article in Business Insider cited 58 biases that screw up the way we think and subsequently, what we do! Being aware that your brain may be limiting you and having some idea what the most common biases are can help you be more critical of information you take in and help you to be open to ideas and knowledge different from your beliefs.

2. Recognize, refute and replace negative self-talk

You have 50,000 to 80,000 conversations in your head per day on average, and some percentage of them are negative self-talk. For many people, that percentage is less than 50%. I’m not good enough, I’m too fat, or I can’t are all examples of negative self-talk.

Begin to recognize these thoughts and refute them by stating reasons why they’re not true. Lastly, replace them with something better such as “I have what it takes to do what I am meant to do,” or, change your “I can’t” to “I can.”

“Your smile will give you a positive countenance that will make people feel comfortable around you.”

Les Brown

3. Rely on grit over talent and passion

Psychologist Angela Duckworth in her book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, states that “Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.”. She talks about how it’s easy to be in love with what you do but more challenging to stay in love with it. That takes grit. Pursuing something because you have a passion for it is not enough to keep you going.

You must be willing to hone your skills, develop your creativity and grow what you do. Discover, develop, deepen. Moreover, don’t expect talent and innate ability to do more than open doors and create opportunities. These are little more than clues to your passion. Grit is what creates success.

4. You figure out what you love over time not overnight

You also figure it out by trying many things and getting out of your head. Most people are not born knowing what their soul’s purpose and passion are. To figure out what you love, try different jobs, volunteer with different organizations, look for clues, and look for mentors to help you.

Knowing what you don’t like is important to the process of figuring out what you love. Dr. Duckworth shares, “most grit paragons I’ve interviewed told me they spent years exploring several different interests, and the one that eventually came to occupy all of their waking (and some sleeping) thoughts wasn’t recognizably their life’s destiny on first acquaintance.”

As someone who studied classical ballet, accounting, finance, international business, French, fashion and psychology in college, followed by positive psychology, coaching, and writing, I can vouch for it taking years, and thousands of dollars to find what I enduringly love doing.

“Entrepreneurs average 3.8 failures before final success. What sets the successful ones apart is their amazing persistence.”

Lisa M. Amos

5. A growth mindset wins over a fixed mindset

You will be more successful if you believe, not that you are ready, but that you aren’t. If you have a growth mindset, you know that to be successful you will have to learn new things, face challenges, and adapt.

In her book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, Dr. Carol Dweck shares that, “in the growth mindset, you don’t always need confidence…even when you think you’re not good at something, you can still plunge into it wholeheartedly and stick to it.”

When you are open to new information, whether it is consistent with your current beliefs or not, you have the opportunity to grow.

Whether you are cultivating optimism, finding or deepening your passion, or dialing down the influence of biases, having an open mind and expanding it can turn you into a high performer. If you feel stuck, try something new.

Tony Robbins says, “Don’t quit. Try a new approach.” You may be holding yourself back either by negative self-talk or old programming. If doing what you always did hasn’t gotten you where you want to be, try something new.  Start by challenging your thoughts and beliefs.

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